In love, attraction, or Addiction?

What to do when you just sexual attraction? Is inevitable that the brain to stop secreting the hormone responsible for building the attraction, phenylethylamine (PEA) and the thrilling sensation, the famous butterflies in the stomach, stop flying or fade. What happens now is that people divorce fades as brain chemistry. By this time children are involved. So we must focus on increasing from 25% to a higher percentage in terms of successful relationships and happy.

Or really "true love" to the couple does not exist? It is a delusion that makes us our brain chemistry?

Let's start by understanding what is ugly, if I know the acronym per se should cause us to distrust, and now I know its effects.

Phenylethylamine or FEA, whose name is as complicated as irrational relationships that draws us, is a neurotransmitter secreted by a brain region called the hypothalamus. This neurotransmitter plays a very important part in the stage of "falling in love" creating a sensation of euphoria. This frees our brain chemistry when we're with the person who draws or just thinking about him or her. The feeling is so addictive that's why we want to spend the whole day with the person in question and already Perdis think the whole day or daydream about that person. It also explains to people who can not stand alone and jump from one relationship to another.

Like most criminals, this hormone does not work alone, you have buddies who work with them to confuse you and make you feel "in love / o".

Dopamine, if dopamine .... Beware of everything that includes the prefix dopa. Ok, this hormone is directly involved in the phase of "attention" in the stage of attraction. The brain sends signals that there may be a reward, in this case says that "love" can be close and help (the brain) to focus on that person taaaaaan special. The secretion of this chemical makes people more talkative and as additional data is an important factor in attention deficit disorder ... long live love!

Another FEA buddies is serotonin, to which it is associated with mood changes, which we all know that fluctuate greatly when you are in love. This is used antidepressant drugs. It can induce violent behavior and the pursuit of powerful experiences. Falling in love with that wonderful, no?

We continue with the band members of the FEA, which will help you sit in the clouds when you fall. Noradrenaline, the neurotransmitter increases blood pressure and causes you to action, also regulates sleep patterns and sexual pleasure ... Ahhhhh, is that why you can not sleep??? You keep thinking about that very special person? Fantasizing about things that never pass? Sorry, but it is real.

It is truly tragic that the effects of the FEA (the beautiful the like?) Have a very limited time if one assumes that marriage is forever. And even more tragic that most people have no idea that the "crush" is a matter of chemistry ecerebro. Recent research estimates that the effects of these chemicals end after 18 months to 5 years, which explains why many relationships end within that period of time. But .... Pa It is therefore all is not lost when it is FEA - (FEA always lost by ugly) is not to comment barrel with these letters, there is another biochemical reaction that may or may not start when the FEA is gone. This is what makes some couples are able to create bonds and long-term attachment.

Oxytocin hormone we know the role it plays in childbirth and in the process in which the mother produces milk for our kids. For it is said that this hormone also influences the creation of links between adults. In fact called the love hormone. Both men and women secrete oxytocin during orgasm, which can strengthen the bond between couples. Only the effect of oxytocin is not a stimulant, its effect is similar to drugs such as morphine is sometimes used to induce childbirth, for example. It gives you a sense of peace and wellbeing. As we feel when we have a partner (or eggs) and create attachments and links in which there are no passions or sexual desires.

Well, now you know why when you fall in love is a sensation of being under the influence of drugs very good (it is said that the effect of all these chemicals is similar to cocaine or heroin, more addictive, interesting ... .. ). Understand and also because not think clearly, sleep less and can be so visceral ... ALIVE AGAIN WE LOVE IRRATIONAL!

After all .... Humans do not produce enough love FEA to stay for long, just long enough to reproduce ... What we mean Mother Nature? Hmmm ... We are humans monogamous? What to do: having multiple monogamous relationships of 18 months to 5 years? Open marriages? Be unfaithful? Or just admit that our brain reacts in consequence of their own secretions and so, naturally, we sometimes do things that hurt our loved ones? Is justification? Or is it an irresponsible way of living?

I honestly do not know how to respond to any of these questions. What is a fact is that we do not stay in love forever as we have wanted to believe so far. It occurs to me that we must learn to share many other things (besides sex) in order to have lasting and satisfactory.

What is important is to inform and to know where are all those feelings which give immediate pleasure and why they are so addictive. Understand that the things "weeeeeeey never felt before" (a little so you do not tell your friends) is not that you have not felt by other people and that "now ... this is real" it is not so when FEA Step Down as usual (other than FEA traitor) if both do not start to produce oxytocin, the great love goes along with the FEA (that nightmare).

If we look on the bright side to all of those suffering from "broken heart" ... it can last more than 18 months, the pain is going to take the FEA, do not worry ... I had to have some utility.



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